Our story.

We began with a simple, slightly stubborn idea: dating apps could feel kinder. They could ask better questions. They could put compatibility ahead of catchy photos and try to learn what actually makes two people want to keep showing up for each other. That was the brief. Six years later, it’s still the brief.

Why we built it

The early team had all spent too long on swipe apps and come out feeling worse for the experience. We’d also all watched our friends, in their thirties and forties, quietly give up on online dating altogether. There was an obvious gap — a calmer place built for people who actually want a relationship and are willing to put a little thought into finding the right one.

So we started reading the research. Decades of work on what predicts relationship longevity, on conflict, on the difference between attraction and compatibility. We talked to therapists, to long-married couples, to people who’d met online and people who hadn’t. Our matching model grew out of those conversations.

How we match

Our compatibility model looks at the dimensions that quietly determine whether a relationship will work over time:

• Values and worldview — what you each consider non-negotiable and how that shows up in everyday choices.
• Communication style — how you handle conflict, repair, and the small frictions of shared life.
• Daily rhythms — early bird or night owl, structure or spontaneity, home-cooked or out tonight.
• Long-term direction — what your next decade looks like in your head, and how flexibly you hold that picture.

None of these are predictive on their own, and none guarantee chemistry. But together they significantly raise the chance that when you do meet someone, you’ll have something real to build on.

Working with us

We’re a small, deliberate team. Engineering, product, research, support, and trust & safety — all in one room (or one Zoom). We hire slowly and we hire people who care deeply about getting the small details of someone’s most personal experience right. If that sounds like you, our roles are listed on our jobs page.

Press & community

If you’re writing about us, working on a relationship-research project, or just want to send us thoughts, we’d love to hear from you. You can reach our team through the contact page.

A note from us

Dating is hard. It’s vulnerable in a way that almost nothing else in modern life is. Whatever happens in your time here — whether you meet your person here or just have a few good conversations along the way — we hope it feels like time well spent. Thank you for trusting us with it.